February ‘10
Hi to all:
It’s the month that reminds us that loving ourselves is as important as loving another.
Oh, you noticed that I didn’t start this month’s newsletter with “This is Cupid’s month…” and then some of you would get triggered that you might get by-passed in the realm of love. The truth is that it’s too bad it takes a particular date or month to remind us that we are made of Love and to be present in this deep awareness…it is the building blocks within our atoms in our connection to All-That-Is.
How often do you sit with yourself and feel the depth of love you have for yourself? Would this be narcisstic? Would it be selfish? Have you ever cried in awe of who you are, and why you’re here…particularly at this time in the transition of consciousness? Have you sat quietly with yourself feeling the journey you’ve gone through up to this point and seen the amazing changes, even if it’s just to recognize that you’re alive and breathing and know there is something more for you?
I have. It kind of brings tears to my eyes just thinking about my life and where I am today, who I am today, and that there is more I want to accomplish in being here. I have sat with myself and felt how deeply and gently I can acknowledge those parts of myself that need improving without diminishing the growth I’ve gone through and the love I feel towards myself. Everything counts, and I live from this awareness in discerning how much energy I want to give all those emotional/mental situations.
In the beginning of January, I received a call from a relative that I had asked not to contact me ever again. I had last heard from him 11 years ago (and 5 years before that). In that conversation, I had listened for 10 minutes while doodling on a piece of paper with the receiver on my lap though periodically picking it up to see if the tone or content had changed, as he continued a diatribe of how selfish and terrible I was. When he realized I wasn't listening, as I didn't respond, he screamed that I not hang up and to listen to him. I wasn't 5 years old anymore, and I stopped him. In the guided clarity of the moment, both loving and respectful, without making him wrong, I told him that I loved him, always did and always will. I could accept that he wanted to adhere to his reality and perceptions but mine were too different, and I was no longer going to perceive my life where he resonates from. My truth is stronger than denial. Our lives together were complete. I set my boundaries and explained that I was no longer available to listen to him now or in the future. I wished him well and repeated that I loved him. He slipped into his desperation as he yelled for me not to hang up. But I did. You can just about imagine the hooks and cords that were returned.
It was quite an emotional ordeal, but the strength of my understanding and forgiveness was more powerful. Forgiveness was both for myself and towards him in the understanding of that word. It was saying, “I take back my power. You can’t have it anymore. I’m complete in my relationship to you, and I release you from needing to tell me how incredibly strong I am through demeaning me and that the love for myself precedes any relationships that denies this Truth.” Yes, his obligation was to teach me what I already knew, and it was indeed complete. His phone call allowed me to verbalize it, to step into the situation with groundedness and love. I would not participate in relationships that were abusive and demeaning-- verbally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. As Marianne Williams once said, "There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
I was in the midst of a rather intense Mercury retrograde during late December and early January—a piece of important health equipment broke, a slight car accident on New Years eve, a gall bladder attack for 4 days (though I continued to work), and my computer got a virus and was with my tech for repair. It was the last day of the retrograde, and I was working on my upstairs laptop. I was taking care of a few emails, looking forward to going out in an hour to see ‘Avatar’. The phone in that room doesn’t have a caller ID to screen calls, and without thinking, I lifted up the receiver as the phone rang. I heard a very calm male voice asking if I knew who it was. I didn’t. He gently announced, quite rehearsed, who it was. His voice was rarely calm. My nervous system sparked. I felt taken by surprise. How was I going to handle this?
He proceeded, as he had in the past, saying, “Don’t hang up on me. I want to talk to you?” His voice wasn’t attacking, but I didn’t trust the premise.
I responded first. “There is nothing to talk about. I’ve told you I didn’t want to communicate. My life is doing well. I’ve written two books. There is nothing more that needs to be discussed. Our lives are too different. I will no longer live in denial about what happened in our lives. I accept that that is where you and the others have chosen to put your energy. I wish you well and love you.”
He remained silent for a brief moment. It wasn't to integrate what I said but rather to manuever to his next prepared point. He continued to make another family member wrong before I stopped him. It was the same old pattern of who to identify as the family scapegoat or identified patient. When I immediately ceased that conversation, he turned it towards me. “Don’t you think you have problems?”
I hung up. Nothing had changed in the pattern…except me. I’m the difference in my life. I know that this person really loves me but is unable to express or demonstrate love because he feels lacking of it in himself and has not explored his own issues. In either of these time-distanced connections, could he say that he loved me. Playing the martyr or victim, making others wrong, is a huge defense mechanism. I knew that this strategy would not change in this lifetime for him. I felt compassion...understanding where he comes from and knowing that this kind of behavior is no longer part of my evolution... this was not my problem.
I was so grateful to watch Avatar after--what a movie of conviction, beauty, strength and transformation! The ones who hold and live the Truth continue their lives at a new and heartfelt level. This was another confirmation of support in how I dealt with this relative.
My story, as so many that I hear in my practice, remind me of the little tale by Sogyal Rinpoche from the “Tibetan Book of the Living and Dying.”
Autobiography in Five Chapters
Chapter 1
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost...I am hopeless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.
Chapter 2
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I’m in the same place.
It still takes a long time to get out.
Chapter 3
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in...it’s a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.
Chapter 4
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.
Chapter 5
I walk down another street.
Keep taking a new road that fills your heart with joy. Let this month and each day of your life be a loving tribute to YOU. Be your own Valentine's first.
Blessings, love, and gratitude,
Judy
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PRACTICUM
I was debating what date would work best for the February practicum. Some of you are going to SoulMate Day or for Teachers' certification in Las Vegas the weekend of the 13th. Last year, I did a Valentine relationship day. This year, I decided to create an all day program on the Art of Presence and Relationships, a similar type workshop as last year but from a different angle. This will be a very intimate workshop as we discuss the different levels of our relationships whether with Creator, with ourselves, in a family or in a partnership. How present can you be in a relationship? What keeps you from being present? Remember that the more you are present with yourself, the more you can be for others.
So in checking in with Creator, I'm going to make it for Saturday, February 20th from 11 to 4. There is a semi-veg potluck from 1-2 at my home in Santa Rosa as well. It is for the Basic and Advanced levels.
I have changed the workbook a bit from last year , and this will be included in the fee of $50 for the day. If you want to use last years' workbook, that's fine, and the price will be $45. I will be donating $5 to a fund for domes for Haiti www.worldshelters.com/haiti, and the rest goes towards the scholarship fund. This workshop needs to be pre-paid. I decided to do it ahead of time so a commitment would be made, and I know how many to count on. I will email you the workbook upon receipt of payment and then you can print it out. You are welcome to send a check (email me for the address) or use paypal using my email (jd@thetahealingintuitive.com) for the amount (there is a 3% service charge on all paypal for a total of $51.50) The last day to register is Wednesday, February 17th. This was a very successful workshop last year. I welcome all students of ThetaHealing™.
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WORKSHOPS
http://www.thetadnaactivation.com/workshops.html
All courses are accredited by the ThetaHealing™ Institute of Knowledge and can be applied toward the ThetaHealing™ Master program.
There is a discount price for those who wish to review the courses as there are always updates as well as hearing the vast amount of information for the second
- BASIC LEVEL 1-2--March 12-14 (Friday through Sunday) in Santa Rosa, CA.
Nursing CEU's available.
-ADVANCE LEVEL --April 23-25th (Friday through Sunday) in Santa Rosa, CA
Special pricing for the Basic and Advanced registered together.
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MOVING BEYOND:
Healing The Trauma Of Physical AND Sexual Abuse
Through ThetaHealing™
This new ebook http://www.thetadnaactivation.com/resources3.html is supported and approved by Vianna for all ThetaHealers who have taken both the Basic and Advance workshops to help heal those with conscious and repressed physical and sexual abuse memories and trauma. The paper copy will be available soon.
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INSPIRATION
Music of opportunity; sound of potential
Born without eyeballs and unable to ever walk, Patrick Hughes started playing the piano by one years old and was taking requests by 2. His father and him have an amazing and loving team approach to their lives. http://www.youtube.com/watch_popup?v=9xwCG0Ey2Mg
Kindness taught in Seattle school's online class
If you recently found a shiny gold dollar coin in downtown Bellevue, thank the kindness class. Ditto if you stumbled upon a piece of glass art in Pioneer Square, or a lottery ticket taped to a bus shelter with a note saying, "This may be your lucky day." Since mid-September, the 250 people in Puget Sound Community School's online course learned about kindness by practicing it. Along the way, they took emotional risks, repaired relationships, improved their outlook on the world, and realized that kindness is contagious. The phrase "random acts of kindness" first showed up at least a decade ago, a play on the expression "random acts of violence." Since then, books, movies and even national organizations have sprung up to keep the trend going. Puget Sound Community School's kindness class — now in its 15th year — is a homegrown example that this year drew a record number of students. http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/localnews/2010604939_kindnessclass27m.html
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THE AMAZING HUMAN BODY
Lilia Stepanova, originally from Moldovia (Ukraine), Lilia is a 24 year old contortionist. She does her act for the NFL, Las Vegas and was on America’s Got Talent. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iwjd_mpaEvE&feature=related
El Hombre deGoma This is in Spanish but this man's contortions are amazing in using such separate body isolations. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oY77M0Bg_Q0&feature=PlayList&p=7E361EFC9B8DF4A1&index=9
Dan Myer, from Hartselle, AL., has a very special talent. He’s a sword swallower. Using mind over matter and the intense study of body physiology, he nudges his heart and other organs aside to swallow 2-3 ft swords down this throat. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Aw7EkIsYK0&feature=related
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ANIMAL WORLD
Scientists say dolphins should be treated as 'non-human persons'
Dolphins have been declared the world’s second most intelligent creatures after humans, with scientists suggesting they are so bright that they should be treated as “non-human persons”. Studies into dolphin behavior have highlighted how similar their communications are to those of humans and that they are brighter than chimpanzees. These have been backed up by anatomical research showing that dolphin brains have many key features associated with high intelligence. The researchers argue that their work shows it is morally unacceptable to keep such intelligent animals in amusement parks or to kill them for food or by accident when fishing. Some 300,000 whales, dolphins and porpoises die in this way each year. “Many dolphin brains are larger than our own and second in mass only to the human brain when corrected for body size.” http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/science/article6973994.ece
Meet Jasmine, the rescue dog who has become a surrogate mother for the 50th time.
When Jasmine the abandoned greyhound arrived at a wildlife sanctuary shivering and desperate for food, she needed all the love in the world to nurse her back to full health. Now it appears the kindness and patience shown to her has rubbed off - for the rescue dog has become a surrogate mother to abandoned dogs, rescued coyotes, injured rabbits, a fawn, and an owl. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1103645/Meet-Jasmine-rescue-dog-surrogate-mother-50th-time.html
A Snake saves a family from fire
A Chinese man who nursed a dying snake back to health claims it saved his family by raising the alarm when their house was on fire. http://www.ananova.com/news/story/sm_3618918.html?menu=news.quirkies
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HEALTH
The Unromantic Truth about Kissing
The kiss may have evolved for reasons that are far more practical and less alluring than previously thought. British scientists believe it developed to allow the female to develop natural immunity that protects the couple’s offspring against a potentially devastating infection. Cytomegalovirus, which lurks in saliva, normally causes no problems. But it can be extremely dangerous if caught while pregnant and can kill unborn babies or cause birth defects. These can include problems ranging from deafness to cerebral palsy. Kissing the same person for about six months provides optimum protection. As the relationships progresses and the kisses become more passionate, the female’s immunity builds up.
Know which Organic skin and health products are really organic
The Organic Consumers Association (OCA), along with certified organic personal care brands Dr. Bronner's Magic Soaps, Intelligent Nutrients, and Organic Essence, filed a complaint with the USDA National Organic Program (NOP), requesting an investigation into the widespread and blatantly deceptive labeling practices of leading so-called "Organic" personal care brands, in violation of USDA NOP regulations. The corporations named in the complaint are: The Hain Celestial Group, Inc.; Kiss My Face Corporation; YSL Beaute, Inc. (“YSL”); Giovanni Cosmetics, Inc. (“Giovanni”); Cosway Company, Inc. (“Cosway”); Country Life, LLC (“Country Life”); Szep Elet LLC (makers of Ilike Organic Skin Care); Eminence Organic Skin Care, Inc.; Physicians’ Formula Holdings, Inc. (makers of Organic Wear); Surya Nature, Inc.; Organic Bath Company, Freeman Beauty Division of pH Beauty Labs, Inc. (makers of Freeman Goodstuff Organics), Jason Pure, Natural & Organic, Avalon Organics, Kiss My Face ObsessivelyOrganic, Nature's Gate Organics, Stella McCartney 100% Organic, Giovanni Organic, Head Organics, Eminence Organic, Physicians Formula Organic Wear, Good Stuff Organics, Desert Essence Organics. Companies that are certified organic can be found at: http://www.organicconsumers.org/bodycare/index.cfm#BUY
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DNA
Effects of Human Conscious Intention on the DNA
http://www.item-bioenergy.com/infocenter/ConsciousIntentiononDNA.pdf
DNA – New Matter for building
Researchers report they have used DNA as the blueprint to build a three-dimensional structure out of gold, a lifeless material…using DNA as the foundation or backbone to build a living organic structure of their own design, made up of nano-particles of gold. By programming the DNA to take on a specific shape, and immersing it in a solution of nano-particles of gold, which are 15 nanometres in diameter, the gold attaches itself to the DNA in very specific positions to give it form and strength. The technique is a major and fundamental step toward building functional "designer" materials using programmable self-assembly materials (DNA), and was published in the journal Nature on 31 January 2008, reflecting more than a decade of work.
http://www.physorg.com/news120920995.html
Why your DNA isn’t your destiny: Epigenetics
There’s something controlling your genes -- that they don’t control themselves but are controlled by epigenetic coding that tells them to be expressed or not expressed -- which is completely controlled by your environment and lifestyle. As you age, your genome does not change but your epigenome changes dramatically, especially during critical periods of life, such as adolescence. It is influenced by physical and emotional stresses -- how you respond to everything that happens in your environment, from climate change to childhood abuse. Epigenetic changes can be passed down for many generations. Each of us has far greater responsibility than we ever imagined!
http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2010/01/23/Why-Your-DNA-Isnt-Your-Destiny.aspx