ANNOUNCEMENTS FOR SPIRITUAL GROWTH
The next Paradigm Shifters gathering will be on Saturday, January 11th from 11 to 1:30 with an organic potluck after. The topic will be, “Owning your Part in Difficult Interactions- Clearing Obligations, Resentments, Grudges, Hatred, and Anger. The cost is $30. Please RSVP no later than Wednesday, January 8th only if you plan to attend. If you are a Capricorn, please let me know…I’ll have a birthday cake as it will be my birthday on that Monday.
I welcome all students of ThetaHealing®. Besides having time to work on yourself, remember that the more you practice, the better practitioner you will become, and the more that ThetaHealing® can be incorporated into your life to change it. Having facilitation is important to make your practice more skillful and having a supportive group of like-minded people helps to make it safe to delve into issues.
All courses that are accredited by the ThetaHealing Institute of Knowledge® and can be applied toward the ThetaHealing® Master program. More information at http://www.thetadnaactivation.com/workshops.html
[Partial scholarships available if payment is completed at least two weeks prior to any of these three classes.]
Accredited ThetaHealing® Workshop schedule
Basic- January 17th -19th, Friday-Sunday
Advanced- March 7-9th, Friday-Sunday
Manifestation and Abundance- April 12-13th , Saturday-Sunday
Non-Accredited ThetaHealing® Workshop
Relational Love: Healing through ThetaHealing from Self to Others-May 17-18th
This program is for those who really want to commit to learning different facets of ThetaHealing, working professionally with clients, ethics, emotional presence, transference/countertransference/projection, safety issues, self-defining beliefs, digging tips, and Inner child. This will include discussions, homework, and facilitation. It will be online through Google hangout. It’s a six month commitment of once a month for two hours, and anyone who has had Basic and Advanced in the last five years is invited. Please email me at email@example.com for further information. This will start in February and the cost is $300. Depending on how many commit will determine on how many groups are formed as I am taking 8 as a maximum.
BLOG FOR THE SOUL
New Year greetings! What a year to reflect on. I felt like I experienced scenes from "The Good, Bad, and the Ugly." The good was that my 5th grandchild, Soraya Eva, was born...6 weeks prematurely...but healthy and doing well. The Bad was that I missed the birth, but that may not be bad in the long run...the Universe always has a plan in it's Divine Order.
The ugly is that because these past few years have certainly been deep stripping away of myself in what I would term 'the rawness of existence' through the Spiritual/Kundalini Emergency experience, I'm still a mush within a ‘chrysalis'... I guess that could be considered beautiful for some, but butterflies are more my thing. I thought I was emerging last year, but the Universe had a different agenda. It kind of took my wings and body and did another 'put through the ringer' for good cleaning and purification. The good is that I taught seven Theta workshops, created and taught two new ones and moved out of the shame of being in this Emergency to appreciating the depth of strength I have to continue on with all that I lived through. I just didn’t pick one of those smooth roads to travel through....more like "the road less traveled...as that has made all the difference." I’m sure most of my readers can relate.
Many of you are professional healing practitioners who are reading this, so uniqueness of the journey, which often goes into the ‘wounded healer ‘paradigm, isn’t news. Others of you are training to become practitioners. So many dynamics come up in this field that need some deeper awareness to help us navigate more smoothly on the path. One that has particularly been more prominent in my awareness is about a topic that comes from a deeply entrenched childhood coping mechanism.
As healing practitioners, we are being asked and moreso paid for advice or sharing wisdom with others. But there is a balance between being available to give advice that is asked for and giving unsolicited advice, and between unconditional advice and opinions stated as truths.
Many in the healing field fall into old dysfunctional patterns in helping or supporting others beyond what is asked for. It’s wonderful to be generous, but there is a fine line and a shadow piece that keeps issues in negative coping mechanisms. This pattern is called by numerous names: fixing, unsolicited advice, directing choices, giving recipes. In the long run, it can be an overstepping of boundaries and ultimately become very disempowering to those who are the recipients.
In emotionally, physically or sexually abusive families, ‘fixing’ others becomes so entrenched that it becomes a ‘normal’ way of relating…telling others what they need to do in order to change a situation. Although "fixing'' looks altruistic, it is really a fear-based behavior involving control, because the outcome is not so much for the other's benefit but to make the giver feel good, relaxed, at peace in that things are the way they "should” be, that perceived safety is created. There is also a covert side where there is an attempt to show how much the giver has done for others, and there is a play-out of the ‘sacrificial lamb’ or ‘martyr’ archetype to often gain control. This is loaded with creating guilt which is another form of control. Behind the giver’s actions are, “Look what I’ve done for you. Can’t you see this?” And it’s really about them not feeling good about themselves.
If we’d more closely explore this, these questions could easily be pondered. “How does a child deal best if the adult/s in their life is seen as helpless or out-of-control (crisis situations) and can’t protect and support them, or if there is a perpetrator within the family dynamics or within the structure of the child’s life who hurts them repeatedly either emotionally, physically or sexually? What would be a way for the child to talk themselves out of the situation?” Often children leave their body or hide in the recesses of themselves. Or they could attempt to ‘fix’ things negotiating themselves out of a situation. If they could only be good enough, do it better, attempt to move beyond the scene to see how to prevent it, things might be safe or they would be loved and accepted.
As the child grows to adulthood, the coping pattern evolves further to taking over the responsibility of another person, place or thing and being sure that the outcome for another is ‘positive’ and in accord with the giver’s mental picture or ideal of the "way things should be'' in their world.
Giving unsolicited advice, offering solutions without being asked and directing choices is how a person moves into a false "power'' and "controlling'' position over those things or people they are trying to fix or feel safe from. This is also called co-dependent behavior. It can easily become a compulsive, addictive or obsessive need where the giver is often taking on uncontrollable and unchangeable things which burn them out, create a great deal of drama in their own lives, and leave them in need of being "fixed.''
Laura Davis, in her book “Allies In Healing,” gives a great example of a link of this ‘fixing’ pattern that comes from the giver’s background as they evolve. “The experience of life as crisis is difficult to give up. In a crisis, your adrenaline is pumping, there’s a high level of excitement, and you don’t have time to feel. You act on automatic. You just respond. Handling crisis well can be a way to feel good about yourself. Allowing things to be quiet and responses to be appropriate means giving up a certain high that comes with drama. ‘If it isn’t intense, I’m not really alive,’ is the [unconscious] credo for many.... “
It’s important to accept that to truly assist others as practitioners, our goal and purpose is to help others to discover for themselves, to help others find their way down the rabbit hole in digging; or in a casual setting, allowing another to understand without telling them what it is for them and what they can do about it. Recognize that "doing for'' another is not helping another get strong, healthy, independent or interdependent. As we communicate in healthy ways to others if it’s a casual conversation, we then give the message that, “I trust you to work it out, and I’m here if you want to bounce it off someone, or want my opinion as a support”. Or in working with clients, “I’m here to help you hear your patterns and beliefs so we can explore this together.” It gives the client stability, a trust in their process to maneuver to the deeper realms of the sub/unconscious.
So would it be possible that we ask permission before offering advice or suggestions like, “Are you interested in feedback or a suggestion?” Or how about, “What are you needing now that I can support you with?” Then we learn what it takes to empower others to grow.
In listening to the client’s or another person’s response, is it possible to accept with comfort, without taking it personal, if the other says, “No suggestions now” or “Not now” or “I can figure it out.” We are allowing others to have choices, empowering them to ask when they need something and allowing them to decline when it serves their needs of figuring it out on their own. Wouldn’t it have been nice to have been treated this way as a child?
We are all learning to refine our communication skills, boundaries and work with healthy ways of expression that doesn’t repeat old dysfunctional patterns. And these issues had come up strongly for me because of several situations in the last months where I’m told what things are for me, what I need for myself, what I need to do, and if I attempt to say “I don’t want advice or opinions or a recipe”, I’m then told who they think I am in not so supportive ways (which in 12 Step programs is called ‘taking another’s inventory’). Asserting boundaries and what we want for ourselves is a touchy thing for people who speak a language based in childhood coping mechanisms. I often feel like I’m listening to a foreign language without a translator.
On my part, in each situation that happened, I looked at those areas of my life where I need more practice in listening more deeply before responding. And I intuitively saw beforehand what would playout… like looking down a path and knowing that this player or players would respond along that continuum in a certain manner due to the recognizable patterns; and that triggers would occur for others if I went the route of clarifying the dynamics and what I wanted. Yet, I did make a conscious decision that I’d rather speak my truth in the best way I could then feel lost in something that didn’t fit me, that wasn’t who I am, that was within a dynamic that wasn’t healthy to stay in. It’s never easy when everyone is relating from a different level of awareness that is not necessarily based on the present situation, but it’s sure peaceful in the end because I’m staying true with myself.
And then there is the difference between unconditional advice and opinions stated as truth. I don’t know for others, but my clients have said to me, “I don’t want to know what you’d do or think in this situation… just ask Creator”; and what comes out of my mouth is often nothing I would have thought was possible, something so unique to my thinking and with no judgment, I knew I’d hit that 7th Plane Truth realm. And sometimes it’s an affirmation of what I sensed, but of a very peaceful nature. There is a detached yet compassionate feeling and a relaxation in my own body. I’ve been known to say, “I’m not sure what I said to you, but it felt good in my body,” or ‘Wow, that was interesting…I would never have thought of that.”
When people tell me that they are giving me ‘unconditional’ advice when I don’t ask for it and don’t want it, perhaps by them saying, “Do you want to know what Creator says about this,” without listening for a response of agreement from me, I know it’s opinions stated as truth. If they tell me to check it with Creator in what they’ve said as a dare to disagree, I know its opinion stated as truth. If they ask me if I’d like to know what Creator has said, and it feels inviting and open or I’ve asked them, I’m probably going to hear something that I need to pay attention to as a support for myself. That is why I use a great deal of discernment in what I read and listen to as the highest truth from anyone who channels.
In this New Year of more awakening, of many different ways to relate in the changing world, I support you in finding the healthiest and most true ways to lift your consciousness through use of mindful communication and your heart.
In blessings and awareness,
PS check out this link that has some great information on dynamics of fixing and how to move out of this pattern. http://www.livestrong.com/article/14696-overcoming-the-need-to-fix/
SCIENCE MEETS METAPHYSICS
Scientists achieve levitation using sound waves
Using ultrasonic waves – that is, sound waves whose frequency is too high for humans to hear – scientists at the Swiss Federal Institute of Technology in Zurich have made water droplets, instant coffee crystals, styrofoam flakes, and a toothpick, among other objects, hang in midair, move along a plane, and interact with each other. It is the first time that scientists have been able to use sound to simultaneously levitate several objects next to each other and move them around.
Scientific Proof That Negative Beliefs Harm Your Health
While many are aware of the seemingly mysterious placebo effect, fewer people know about its evil twin, “the nocebo effect.” When I was researching my book Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself, I became convinced, without a shadow of a doubt, that a combination of positive belief and the nurturing care of the right healer can activate the body’s natural self-repair mechanisms and help the body heal itself. As reported in an article in The Lancet, researchers in San Diego examined the death records of almost 30,000 Chinese-Americans and compared them to over 400,000 randomly selected white people. The researchers found that the more strongly the Chinese-Americans attached to traditional Chinese superstitions, the earlier they died. When they examined the data, they concluded that the reduction in life expectancy could not be explained by genetic factors, the lifestyle choices or behavior of the patients, the skill of the doctors, or any other variable.
Are we living in a HOLOGRAM? Physicists believe our universe could just be a projection of another cosmos
The universe is a hologram and everything you can see - including this article and the device you are reading it on - is a mere projection. This is according to a controversial model proposed in 1997 by theoretical physicist Juan Maldacena. Until now the bizarre theory had never been tested, but recent mathematical models suggest that the mind-boggling principle could be true.
Forget the Big Bang - 'Rainbow Gravity' theory suggests our universe has NO beginning and stretches out infinitely
The theory’s name comes from a suggestion that gravity's effect on the cosmos is felt differently by varying wavelengths of light, which can be found in the colours of the rainbow. Researchers claim it highlights flaws in the Big Bang theory, which suggests the universe was born about 13.8 billion years ago when an infinitely dense point - known as a 'singularity' - exploded. The current belief is light will follow the same set path regardless of frequency. If theory is correct, it means that our universe stretches back into time infinitely with no singular point where it started
A Sunken City Named Heracleion Gets Discovered After 1500 Years
This grand city had also been mentioned by the Greek writer Herodotus, the 5th-century BC historian. When a group led by French marine archaeologist Franck Goddio stumbled upon some relics, it led them to one of the greatest finds of the 21st century, a city underwater. The discovery took place when Goddio had been in search of Napoleon’s warships from the 1798 Battle of the Nile, when he had been defeated by Nelson in these very waters, but to his surprise, he stumbled upon this magnificent discovery. Goddio’s team has since been joined by the Oxford Centre for Maritime Archaeology and the Department of Antiquities of Egypt to produce a wealth of dazzling finds.
Ancient pyramids discovered in Antarctica
Three ancient pyramids have been discovered in the Antarctic by a team of American and European scientists. Two of the pyramids were discovered about 16 kilometers inland, while the third one was very close to the coastline, the team continues to keep silent about the discovery. The only reliable information provided by the scientists was that they were planning an expedition to the pyramids to research them more thoroughly and determine for sure whether the structures were artificial or natural. In case the researchers prove the pyramids are man-made structures, the discovery may bring about the biggest revision of human history ever made. http://inserbia.info/news/2013/06/ancient-pyramids-discovered-in-antarctica/
This Skin Gun uses the patients’ own stem cells which are sprayed on them and healing happens w/in 4 days...completely normal looking skin. The doctor in this video is Dr Steven Wolf. He is currently working at UTSW in Dallas, Texas and is known to Nat Geographic as well as 60 Minutes. He is currently REGROWING Bill Barringer’s fingers after all 10 were amputated after a burn (his post is below the video)
Engineers at the Department of Energy's Pacific Northwest National Laboratory have devised a way to turn algae into crude oil in less than an hour. That oil can then be refined into gasoline that can run engines...algae is a perfect candidate for conversion to biofuel. It's especially good because the energy is packed pretty tightly into that green sludge. To replace all of the petroleum in the United States with algae fuel, you'd need a farm that took up just 0.42 percent of the country's landmass. By comparison, it would take up half of the United States to grow enough soybeans to replace petroleum with biodiesel.
Rawlemon’s Spherical Solar Energy-Generating Globes Can Even Harvest Energy from Moonlight Moonlight The spheres are able to concentrate diffused moonlight into a steady source of energy. The futuristic ß.torics system is catching a lot of attention for its clean and beautiful design. http://inhabitat.com/rawlemon%E2%80%99s-spherical-solar-energy-generating-globes-can-even-harvest-energy-from-moonlight/