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For those who live in the Bay area of San Francisco, I'm going to have a Facilitated Practicum in my Santa Rosa home workshop space on Wednesday, September 6th from 6:30 to 8. I am also getting Zoom set up so people can join me online while there is a live audience participating too. Wow! This will be fun! Mark your calendar for practice, camaraderie and support. Cost is $30.
Please let me know by September 4th if you'll be attending live or online. This will be for Foundational levels--Basic, Advanced and Dig Deeper levels. For more information, contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org
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BLOG FOR THE SOUL
Quote for the Month: Love shouldn’t be about jealousy or anything like that. It should be about commitment and being able to trust the other person. If you can’t have that from the get-go, there’s a problem. ~Aaron Carter
I was listening to an inspiring Ted talk by Samra Zafar on her story of being sent from the United Arab Emirates to Canada to become a teen wife through an arranged marriage. She was 16, and all she wanted was to complete her education and become a doctor. But instead, she suffered through 10 years of physical, psychological and emotional abuse until she finally left the marriage with her two daughters.
Through continuing her education, which she paid for by running a daycare, gaining connections in her daily life that inspired her self confidence, she has gone on to help other abused women.
I really loved seeing this beautiful woman speak in her power, healing and commitment to educate others around domestic abuse. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XPAG3I8P34k
There was something, though, that I disagreed with…her awareness around what she called, "healthy" jealousy –what was inferred around feelings when one is being flirtatious or attentive to another who is not part of the relationship. I felt she had a cultural belief… that it was somehow ok for people to have a little jealousy thus defining it as 'healthy'... that being jealous shows others that they are cared about.
Hmmm. Why would jealousy be healthy? Isn't it the ways we are in relationships that show how we care, love, respect one another? She had actually discussed this yet added ‘healthy jealousy’ as a side note.
Jealousy is where the person feels or needs something outside them self which they think can't be met. It arises out of thinking one is being denied something that another has. This is an emotional set-up that relies on polarization, of competition or comparison towards another. What I also discovered is that it's about loss of personal power, lack of self esteem, and/or loss of ability to get one's needs met.
In having been to Italy many times, it was shared with me that jealousy is a very cultural expression which occurs when men or women are found attractive by others who are not part of the primary relationship. Just the sense that someone of the opposite sex could possibly be attentive, is enough for feathers to be ruffled.
There is a relational gain though. If the partner acted jealous, it somehow meant that s/he was protective of the relationship and loved the person more. I realize that this definition and experience doesn’t just happen in Italy but is worldwide.
The person who lived in Italy said she grew up differently, learning that trust and loyalty were essential in a relationship. To be trusted didn’t include jealousy towards her or others. She was able to discuss this with her partner, and what it felt like for her. This helped to support a change in her partner’s behavior.
One way to heal jealousy, is also to recognize that we might feel it. It’s not always an easy feeling to admit to, even our US culture.
I did quite a bit of digging work around this issue years ago when something was triggered during an interaction. Later, in the privacy of my room, I decided that I had to get to the feeling and memory under the trigger.
I remembered that as a child, my younger sister had wanted something that was mine, something I felt was special to me, a game or toy, and I didn’t want to share it with her.
Deep down, at a very unconscious level, I felt that my life and my body were owned by others. The only person I felt who loved me was my paternal grandmother, and my toys were the only symbol or material form of reminding me I had something at home to love, and was thus loved and valued.
In not sharing my toy, not only was I severely shamed and screamed at by my father, but punished with a week without TV (which was like the end of the world to me—it was a way to zone out from the intensity of my life). I was also told I could not visit my paternal grandmother that night where I was supposed to go. She was the only person who even attempted to protect me from the craziness I was living through.
Instead, my sister got to sleepover my grandmother’s with my toy. The jealousy that I felt was overlapped with suppressed rage and emotional shut down. Unraveling the feelings was so intense. I just held and rocked myself to comfort all the tears that were pouring. It was both painful and releasing.
Then I looked at how the jealousy served me through the missing needs. The trigger that got me in touch with the jealousy, helped me to discover that I had such a need to own myself, to have sovereignty over me, to be accepted for what I wanted, and to be loved for who I was.
Jealousy, when acknowledged and not projected nor accepted as a way of being no matter what form it's in, can be such an opportunity to deeply heal the shame that lies within and get our needs met in healthy ways.
With care and understanding,
I extracted possible ‘theme’ beliefs from the story. Energy test yourself for them, practice clearing them through digging if applicable, and use Creator's teachings, including the ones below, if they fit.
*A public figure’s expression of healthy jealousy has to be the truth.
*I have to feel (or show) jealousy to express my love for another.
*I have to experience the jealousy from another to know I’m valued.
*A little bit of ‘Healthy jealousy’ supports a healthy relationship.
*Jealousy shows another cares about me.
*Trust and respect show less commitment to a relationship than jealousy.
Helpful Creator’s teachings/downloads
I know what it feels like to, how to, when to, that it's possible, that I can, I do (or I am/am able to be):
*To express love without using jealousy to show it
*To experience a healthy relationship without needing jealousy to deepen it.
*To get my needs met without jealousy
*To have trust and respect show commitment to relating with another
*To feel loved for who I am without needing to be jealous of how another is shown love.
*To love who I am without needing someone outside me to be jealous of my commitment to myself
Immune system directly affects and even controls our social behavior, such as our desire to interact with others.
In a startling discovery that raises fundamental questions about human behavior, researchers at the University of Virginia School of Medicine have determined that, “The brain and the adaptive immune system were thought to be isolated from each other, and any immune activity in the brain was perceived as sign of a pathology. And now, not only are we showing that they are closely interacting, but some of our behavior traits might have evolved because of our immune response to pathogens…” https://news.virginia.edu/content/shocking-new-role-found-immune-system-controlling-social-interactions
Song that decreases Anxiety disorders
Millions of Americans suffer from anxiety disorders, many people even suffer from a Chronic Anxiety Disorder. The song Weightless, by the Marconi Union, resulted in a 65% decrease in the participant’s overall anxiety! They also had a 35% reduction in their usual physiological resting rates. The song was specifically designed to induce a feeling of relaxation. The musicians teamed up with sound therapists to create the song.
Scientists have found a multidimensional universe inside our brain
A new study has proven that the human brain is home to structures and shapes that have up to 11 dimensions of structures and multidimensional geometric spaces in brain networks. “The appearance of high-dimensional cavities when the brain is processing information means that the neurons in the network react to stimuli in an extremely organized manner.”
Hidden Underground Cave In Vietnam Turns Out To Be A Portal To A Whole New World
In 1990 while out on a hunting mission, Ho Khanh stumbled across an opening in a limestone cliff in Vietnam and moved forward to investigate. Clouds appeared along with the sound of rushing water. It wasn’t until 2008 while out on another food gathering trip, Ho Khanh found the mysterious opening again and studiously took note of the path on how to get there. In 2009 he led Howard, Deb and a team of professionals back to the cave for the first expedition to enter what would later become known as Hang Son Doong, or ‘Mountain River Cave’.” The pictures are amazing.