Vianna writes short blogs, and I thought you might enjoy her ‘Quick Tips for raising our vibration.’ http://www.thetahealing.com/blog/quick-tips-raise-vibration/
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BLOG FOR THE SOUL
Quote for the Month: “Everything that triggers us, everything that upsets us, signals an issue within ourselves that we must address.” ~Akiroq Brost
Between working with clients, writing, social media, and connecting with friends and family online, I don’t experience being out and about like I use to years ago. My closest daily ‘live’ connections are my plants and garden.
So in June, I decided to go back to West Coast Swing dance lessons (California’s state dance) mid-week to give my body some breath and movement as part of my self-care.
I walk into the first lesson ready to enjoy the evening. In the class was a large man who closely resembled a taller version of Uncle Fester from the Addam’s family. I had seen him before at other dances but avoided him. And it wasn’t because of how he appeared to me.
I didn’t want to rotate to him in class. I cringed when he took my hand and smiled at me. Letting him touch me was not what I wanted to allow. But I didn’t know how to get out of it in those moments without the teacher knowing and without seeming to be purposely rude.
I made it through the class, but knew I wouldn’t do it again. My body became reactive by the time I got home. I had to go within to understand what was being experienced from the inner.
Here’s why I didn’t want to dance or be around him from an outer perspective.
About seven months prior, I was watching others dance at a monthly event while minding my own business, when this same man came up to me. He didn’t ask me to dance but proceeded to tell me I was sitting on the wrong side of the room, in the teens’ section.
I look around and say, “There are no signs. Why does it matter?” He points to where all the other adults seem to be sitting across the room.
I’m thinking to myself, “So what?! After all that I’ve emerged from, I could care less where I temporarily rest my body as long as it’s safe, and I can get up and dance again. Geesh!”
This is his intro ‘flirt line’. I knew the rest would be difficult. I could feel there was a lack of emotional intelligence.
He sits down right next to me in wanting to pursue my ‘non-interest’ of not moving from where I was sitting and attempts to continue his ‘flirty ways ’ thinking I was newer to the dance scene. I wasn’t. I just had taken a hiatus from West Coast for 7 years.
I’m not feeling comfortable with his energy right next to me as he starts to gossip about people I’ve danced with in the past, and who I have little interest to engage in conversation about. I just want to have fun and exercise. In him being near me, I’m not having either. I’m feeling irritated in him being too close to me.
He's sitting on my right. My right leg is crossed over my left, which in itself is the body language of, ‘I don’t want to engage with you’. My hands are crossed on my right thigh. My body is giving signals that I'm closed off to him.
He shifts the conversation to something political while he places his hand over my hands, which are situated on my thigh.
I’m not sure what to do in the fear that starts to pulse through my body. He has ignored an important social dance rule--it is not ok for a man to place his hand on or near a woman’s thigh or private area in a social situation…particularly in not knowing her! His behavior crossed the line of my personal boundaries into physical inappropriateness.
I respond somehow to his political conversation quickly in saying that I don’t buy into mainstream media, still in the midst of freeze/fear mode. He abruptly says, “So you’re one of those conspiracy theorist?!”
At this point, the freeze immediately turns into anger. It helps me to stand up quickly and move.
Thank you, Anger!
Not only has he been physically inappropriate, but then I get a slap of emotional disrespect in his way of a put-down and being derogatory. I told him I was leaving and walked out.
I went through a great deal after, as I had been majorly triggered. His actions, and even how he looked, brought up a series of repressed abuse memories. I deeply and diligently worked through them for over a week.
A few days later after the incident, I spoke with another woman at a dance about what happened. She supported me to let the dance teacher know what occurred and how I felt. She agreed his behavior was way off-base. There is too much of this going on in so many areas of social interactions, and I didn’t want to feel victimized by it.
Within two days, I emailed my dance teacher and explained the situation. I let her know that I wanted to take lessons but didn’t want to rotate to him. What suggestions could she offer me?
I immensely appreciate that the ‘Metoo movement’ has educated so many to what goes on. The teacher was caring, kind and concerned. She wrote many suggestions of what she could support me with.
The first week I chose to be rotated out of the line as she had me demo with her, or would separate followers and leaders to practice on their own. Then she rotated me back in a place that was after his location. That gave me an opportunity not to be near him through two lessons.
I realized how much energy it took for her to do this for me during the classes in her instructing the other students, teaching both lead and follow, and juggling things with the music as well.
I emailed the teacher in what I planned on doing the following week. I didn't want to triangulate her into an energy of me needing special attention to feel safe around this man. I cleared more issues and had come to a calm and grounded place in my process. I knew what the next step was to be. The next class would launch what felt right for me, and she agreed to support me this last time.
It went seamlessly.
She again pulled me out of line as she did the week before when I was rotating towards him. Near the end of the second lesson, I wanted to rotate to him purposely though. In him reaching out to connect with me, I would tell him that I didn’t want to dance with him, and would add that if he wanted to know why, he could ask me after the lesson.
And that is what I did and said as I moved past him to practice the moves on my own. As we rotated around one more time to various partners and I came to where he was, I just walked past him again.
The lessons ended, and it was open dance time. He was at the other end of the room talking to others. I didn’t care if he spoke of his experience or not. My choice was exactly perfect for me.
The teacher asked how I was doing, and I told her I felt empowered. I thanked her for her care
And he never came to ask me ‘why’. I knew this would happen.
He was oblivious to what occurred in our interaction months earlier even though I avoided him at every social dance after. I sensed he would never have admitted he did anything inappropriate and would probably have accused me of something to make me wrong or act like a victim as if he had been wronged. That is the pattern of communication in people who act inappropriately like he did and who lack emotional intelligence.
I have never shared what happened with anyone else in the class. Actually, no one asked me as obvious as it was, and still is. I continue to rotate past him at each class, but now he holds onto the partner he’s just practiced with as I walk past him to the next dancer. Every follower has to notice this.
Last week, as I rotated past him, one of the other male dancers pointed his finger indicating I had somehow missed rotating to the man who was next to him. I just shook my head and said ‘no’ without missing a beat while smiling. The dancer didn’t ask why.
And until the ‘why’ is asked, there feels no need to explain my decision or actions. I know that if I saw this occur with another, I would ask if something was uncomfortable or felt unsafe for them. The motivation wouldn't be about being nosey, but because I care. It would be obvious to me that something is amiss. But many dancers have their own issues that hold them back from acting in curious or caring ways.
It’s like a pink elephant is in the middle of the room and everyone is dancing around it without saying it exists. That is why dancing is exercise for me rather than an intimate communication.
In clearing my own charge, I figured that if he treated other women the way he treated me, they could respond or report it. I was not into creating a scene but taking care of myself. And I could easily speak my truth to anyone who asked me directly.
I honestly feel that on a cosmic level, this was orchestrated to help me to release the memories, the beliefs within them, and to feel my personal power in action with support that I didn’t have as a child. I could ask for what I needed and people were willing to be there for me. It meant a great deal that my teacher was supportive!
Getting ready to move ‘The Moving Beyond project’ out into the world soon with my business partners, means I may be placed in positions that feel uncomfortable and perhaps somewhat publically vulnerable or intimidated. I have the wisdom and the tools to handle things; and this was another part of the understanding of this whole process.
The past coping mechanisms are different than the actions that can be taken in the present. When we work through those points of origin where the pain and trauma have become a ‘freeze frame’, we become the victor aligned and empowered. This is a place of our truth in action. Healing trauma through Creator makes this possible.
With deepened inner strength and empowerment,
I extracted possible ‘theme’ beliefs from the story. Energy test yourself for them, practice clearing them through digging if applicable, and use Creator's teachings, including the ones below, if they fit.
*I have to conform to others’ perspectives in a social setting.
*I freeze when my boundaries have been infringed upon.
*My feelings are all appropriate for me to acknowledge and work with.
*It’s unsafe to take action when something difficult arises.
*I’m worthy of taking action when something difficult arises
*My boundaries need to change to accommodate other’s perceptions.
*I tune into my needs in order to support my self-care.
*I have and use my choices to pick what works best for me.
*I’m unable to differentiate between my coping mechanisms and actions that empower me for present situations
*I am stuck in feeling victimized by others
Helpful Creator’s teachings/downloads
I know what it feels like to, how to, when to, that it's possible, that I can, I do (or I am/am able to be):
*to allow my choices to be acceptable for me in social settings
*to acknowledge to myself when my boundaries have been infringed upon
*to acknowledge all my feelings as appropriate to work with
*to feel safe and present to take action in the moment
*to take action in the moment
*to be worthy of taking action in the moment.
*to be comfortable in boundaries chosen by myself in any given situation
*to use self care in order to create choices in my life
*the difference between coping mechanisms and actions that empower me for present situations
*to move from feeling victimized to victor
The Science of Near Death Experiences
In recent books by two physicians, Sam Parnia and Pim van Lommel, they describe studies published in peer-reviewed journals that attempt to pin down what happens during NDEs under controlled experimental conditions. Parnia and his colleagues published results from the latest such study involving more than 2,000 cardiac-arrest patients. In the books by Mary Neal, former director of spinal surgery at USC, and Eben Alexander, neurosurgeon who taught and practiced at several prestigious schools and hospitals including Harvard, they recounted their own NDEs sharing a spiritual view that has created a new outward respectability on the subject.
Aquaman crystal allows humans to breath under water w/o oxygen tanks
The peer-reviewed journal, Chemical Science, stated that a mere 10 litres of the crystalline material, just enough to fill a bucket, that can steal the oxygen from an entire average-sized room. The crystal uses cobalt as the basis of its molecular structure, so the process is similar to how you are breathing at this very moment. Tiny amounts of metal are essential for the absorption of oxygen. Your lungs use iron ions from the hemoglobin proteins found in your blood steam to grab hold of oxygen. Instead, the crystal uses cobalt to bind, store, and transport oxygen molecules. http://www.theplaidzebra.com/the-aquaman-crystal-may-allow-us-to-ditch-oxygen-tanks-and-breathe-freely-underwater/
Batteries made from portabello mushrooms
Researchers in the US have created a new type of lithium-ion battery that uses portabella mushrooms - instead of the graphite that currently forms the batteries inside our mobile phones. Evidence suggests that these new batteries might actually last longer than traditional batteries, and could give our phones better battery life as they age. The batteries are also incredibly cheap, easy to make, and, best of all, they're pretty much biodegradable.
Quantum physics proves that there IS an afterlife, claims scientist
Professor Robert Lanza claims the theory of biocentrism teaches that death, as we know it, is an illusion created by our consciousness. Biocentrism is classed as the Theory of Everything and comes from the Greek for 'life center'. It is the belief that life and biology are central to reality and that life creates the universe, not the other way round. For example, a person sees a blue sky, and is told that the color they are seeing is blue, but the cells in a person's brain could be changed to make the sky look green or red. Our consciousness makes sense of the world, and can be altered to change this interpretation.